Tag: ELAN
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TAB Continued…
Revisiting Thought, Attitude, Behavior – how does it apply to personal relationships? Do you have a wonky one that is less than copacetic? Have you noticed bad behavior toward your partner, sibling, parent, child or even neighbor or co-worker? Your perpetual irritation may seem justified. After all, they always say negative things, or they never carry their share of…
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TAB…
TAB is one of my favorite reminders of the importance of watching your language. We don’t often think about the steps that lead to our behavior. It is what happens, deal with it. But there is an attitude that drives that action. Beyond that, there is a thought that informs that attitude. Thought, Attitude, Behavior. …
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Watch Your Language…
This is one of my favorite ELAN Principles because the words we choose directly affect our perception and thoughts. We may have no power over the actions of others, but we have control over our words. We choose our internal language. It takes practice, but we can adopt a more positive dialect. In the tiny,…
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Adopt a Policy…
Maybe there is a catchier way to say it, but adopt a policy means to make a decision once about an issue that comes up repeatedly. Then stick to it. When we had a landline, I decided to always respond to the urgings of telemarketers with “I have a policy to never participate in phone…
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Jammie Pants…
I recently enjoyed a jammie day; no places to go, no people to see, no chores to do. Sure, jammie pants have become everyday wear since March 2020, but a free day with no required log-in or check-in is a rare, beautiful gift. Too many such days strung together would make a dull person, indeed…
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Running Downhill…
Is week two of the new year too early to feel a loss of momentum from that wide-open-to-every-possibility optimism we held last Monday? When we told the world we would go ahead and make our own day by honoring that which matters to our creative selves? Even though I’ve made great strides in preparing novel…
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Go Ahead, Make Your Day…
Happy First Monday of 2023. What do you hope to accomplish today, this week, this year? Perhaps some lofty goal set in the fresh perspective of a new year already seems overwhelming. This is the time to honor that goal, lofty or not. Tend to it. Nurture it. Break it down to daily divots of…
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EOY Countdown…
Happy Last Monday of 2022. It is time to celebrate small things, which through the power of dedicated and daily moments have grown to mighty accomplishments at the crescendo of year’s end. This is a sneaky way to talk about goals and (gasp) dreaded resolutions. (I have only ever kept one resolution and that was…
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Watch out, Someday…
We all have deep desires, many of them common to the human condition (belonging, being loved, loving). Some are just fun, others so deep we barely know them. Maybe they hide in a closet on the “Someday” shelf, waiting for enough time (money, support). I often feel locked out of that closet after hearing a…
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No Limits…
The fourth ELAN Principle is about how limiting thoughts shape our perception of our world, large or small. Perhaps, like me, you believe there is a finite amount of the good things; love, joy, beauty, relationships, comfort. We hold tight to what we believe is in short supply. It is a radical shift to recognize…
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